tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-82075925660790206802024-03-06T00:09:17.419-08:00Table For One - The SBFFunny, serious, and necessary stories from today's Single Black FemaleFilmGuerillahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04163209855956268559noreply@blogger.comBlogger150125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8207592566079020680.post-83140623220956212352010-09-23T08:22:00.000-07:002010-09-23T08:29:47.744-07:00Are we singing the same old song?<object width="640" height="385"><param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/DLnJt_KVsJY?fs=1&hl=en_US"></param><param name="allowFullScreen" value="true"></param><param name="allowscriptaccess" value="always"></param><embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/DLnJt_KVsJY?fs=1&hl=en_US" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" allowscriptaccess="always" allowfullscreen="true" width="640" height="385"></embed></object><br /><br /><br />We all know the black experience in America hasn't been the best experience historically. Now that we are in a better position in society, are we readdressing an issue that is over? Or have we really not advanced in our own community? There is still a great divide between black men and women, and it shows in our films and plays and books... so how do we get to a happier place in media? Does the term life immitating art or art immitating life apply to us? Why arent we happy?FilmGuerillahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04163209855956268559noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8207592566079020680.post-38047429081923086542010-07-29T06:27:00.000-07:002010-07-29T06:45:36.570-07:00The Essence of Beauty<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh_fe9mGbHWpO-AAA4PIXflSujwJwsiz8GA2ZmasXyyIZfNCkYH3P-47lcGzGfvWIHTW26xEAgGSb6WHPnPdE5PpgZAK1JhrMRFNS65TrboJ-aSkLuny-sBH1jRXUIQwCw9Jz-Nmj2fLyk/s1600/essence-age-cover-iman-serena-taraji.jpg"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 152px; height: 200px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh_fe9mGbHWpO-AAA4PIXflSujwJwsiz8GA2ZmasXyyIZfNCkYH3P-47lcGzGfvWIHTW26xEAgGSb6WHPnPdE5PpgZAK1JhrMRFNS65TrboJ-aSkLuny-sBH1jRXUIQwCw9Jz-Nmj2fLyk/s200/essence-age-cover-iman-serena-taraji.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5499320325955846962" /></a><br /><br />Looking at the history of the standards of beauty in this country and the fantastic trend towards changing that standard, is a white fashion editor at a black magazine another sign of change? As with most things that deal with racial discrimination from the African American community, you must look at the whole picture (just ask Shirley Sherrod) Magazines such as Essence came about not because black women felt the need to racially exclude other standards of beauty, but because other magazines did so to African American women... and thus Essence is born, for us by us. If you're a black woman and you've ever sat down in the chair at the salon for a beautician of another race, for the most part of your beauty visit you will hear about how they've only started doing black hair, how different it is, or how proud they are that they've been able to wrap their curling irons around it. Same with makeup artist, most makeup and hair stylist of other races have never done the hair or makeup of a black female! Or they don't know how (i personally believe thats a choice of theirs not to learn, because it's not that difficult) but I digress.... so knowing that we have specific products, and can't just walk down the street and into a salon to get our hair done, or even find makeup thats our shade in certain stores (i had to drive miles to find my shade in virginia) is it okay for a woman who does not have our experience to determine what goes in the magazine? Perhaps this woman knows her stuff, realizes that we have different trends within our community and different stories that we like to see. I hope the best for her at her time at Essence, and hopefully this will be an opening for people in the fashion, hair and makeup community of other races to learn about the beauty of black skin and hair, and black beauty in general. <br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br />http://www.cnn.com/2010/US/07/28/new.york.essence.magazine/FilmGuerillahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04163209855956268559noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8207592566079020680.post-56316943486960071352010-07-23T09:05:00.000-07:002010-07-23T09:19:45.745-07:00Dating With Children<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgKSxgw-z6u2lkFFvHPs_pI5Z75qaWJ-1TP7kxGep-e5j6Y98z8WZJZ8l54yN-gq7dFA795j9N5xCSyejO6pvbpr3eUclAmdy0H216f4AGpBVxt2dM1r9XnYZeM88zWycpRVGvRJyXIAyM/s1600/mwc+copy.jpg"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 200px; height: 132px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgKSxgw-z6u2lkFFvHPs_pI5Z75qaWJ-1TP7kxGep-e5j6Y98z8WZJZ8l54yN-gq7dFA795j9N5xCSyejO6pvbpr3eUclAmdy0H216f4AGpBVxt2dM1r9XnYZeM88zWycpRVGvRJyXIAyM/s200/mwc+copy.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5497134919153041810" /></a><br /><br />I have a friend that's decided to consider dating a man with children. This got me thinking about the dynamics and differences between men and women and how we get to certain points in our lives. This friend swore by not dating men with children, so what made her change her mind? Women in general are usually more open to going into a dating situation with a man thats already a father. In the black community, if a male is a loving father then it shows us that theres the possibility of having a loving father for our children in the future (if we're thinking about that) Dating a man thats a loving father is a plus, and even a turn on for women. Men, after asking several seem to simply accept the fact that the woman he wants to be with has a child, he might learn to grow and care for the child, but he isn't looking at her as a loving mother that might mother his future children. I think if more women in our community only accepted dating fathers that were loving, caring, and there for there children, it might prevent the dooming "serial father" You know the men that have children by more than one (sometimes as many as 5 or more) women. Basically if you've never seen a serial father turn on Maury. <br /><br />Being open to having a family thats already started might put you, ladies, into a different dating pool that you might find pleasing. Of course be aware as to why his previous relationship ended, I can't stress enough how important it is to have mothers and fathers TRY to work things out for the sake of family. But, if you can accept the reason he's not with the mother of his child, and he's showing he can be a good man by caring for his child or children, then why not date him?FilmGuerillahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04163209855956268559noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8207592566079020680.post-87884462016381345772010-07-23T08:55:00.000-07:002010-07-23T09:05:13.836-07:00Single and ready to..... commit<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgJID85HMBqFqPs1LkETyMyVUYn3mV6uthEJulmoNLqEqM6yG3Bqo2_YhDnk9BmzSA6ZosY3PQRrT08Q495dpHAu7o8KqxhEo1chhkMo0xVmHeM2Arw82PSLhVDV9ilenAAQVUDq-eMf38/s1600/beyonce_tattoo_ring_finger-400x384.png"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 200px; height: 192px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgJID85HMBqFqPs1LkETyMyVUYn3mV6uthEJulmoNLqEqM6yG3Bqo2_YhDnk9BmzSA6ZosY3PQRrT08Q495dpHAu7o8KqxhEo1chhkMo0xVmHeM2Arw82PSLhVDV9ilenAAQVUDq-eMf38/s200/beyonce_tattoo_ring_finger-400x384.png" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5497133074592430594" /></a><br />What do you do when you've come to the point in your life where you're ready to take the next step but theres noone to take it with? Finding that special someone is truly an adventure, and I am finding more and more women who believe in their heart of hearts that there really isn't a "soul mate" out there for them. So going into this experience called dating I must begin to look within myself and ask, what is the point? When I meet a man should I be going straight for the throat and considering love and marriage and house and carriage, or should I put away the hunting gear and play it cool having the attitude of "what will be will be"<br /><br />Growing up I was taught that if you want something you need to go after it. I ask you, do you think that also applies to love? So what if "what will be will be" never happens? What if my laid back attitude puts me off from falling in love because theres no effort on my part. <br /><br />As a child many women dream of having their prince charming come in and sweep them off their feet, statistically for over 40% of black women this will never happen. And so I enter this dating experience confused, but open to saying "what I WANT to be will be"FilmGuerillahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04163209855956268559noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8207592566079020680.post-39154211331493115622010-07-21T08:00:00.000-07:002010-07-21T08:05:43.581-07:00Adventures Summer DatingHello Ladies and Gentlemen, it's been a while since I last blogged. It's summertime and living single in Hollywood has it's ups and downs. Me and my single friends are enjoying the adventures in dating. As we navigate more blog entries will be coming so stay tuned!FilmGuerillahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04163209855956268559noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8207592566079020680.post-52922084460453188202010-01-28T07:39:00.001-08:002010-01-28T07:49:32.309-08:00Black Man Going Vogue and Dressing Up in Drag<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_AlISLP0MyZY/S2GxomlgdhI/AAAAAAAAACo/LODD5n6BPoA/s1600-h/eddi+murphey+drag.jpg"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 207px;" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_AlISLP0MyZY/S2GxomlgdhI/AAAAAAAAACo/LODD5n6BPoA/s320/eddi+murphey+drag.jpg" border="0" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5431817936696276498" /></a><br />I have noticed that every famous black man will always accused of being homosexual when he exhibits qualities different from the gangster killer model.Also, I noticed from conversations with friends, every famous black man in the entertainment field had to dress up in drag? Eddie Murphy, Martin Lawrence, Christ Tucker, the list goes on, and this list is quite scary.Seriously, name a famous comedian today that did not dress up in drag? To us this may seem okay, but to the many young black boys out there, maybe this message can be confusing to a young boy who is heterosexual but he is constantly seeing a bunch of famous black men who look like him dress in drag. Lastly, every male R& B artist gets the gay rumors as if a black straight man can't be sensitive? What!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8207592566079020680.post-23826721692023014452010-01-27T07:25:00.000-08:002010-01-27T07:28:52.876-08:001 trillion buying power in America......<div>In America we have 1 trillion in buying power.....money that flows through our hands....the question is where is our money going and are these places investing in our communities or investing in us as individuals? </div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><a href="http://www.eurweb.com/index.php/archives/5040/comment-page-1">http://www.eurweb.com/index.php/archives/5040/comment-page-1</a><div><br /></div>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8207592566079020680.post-58301379047566273782010-01-27T07:15:00.000-08:002010-01-27T07:21:32.076-08:00Some positive news about marriageSome positive news, <a href="http://thehustletownchronicle.com/2010/01/career-vs-marriage-new-research-for-black-women/">http://thehustletownchronicle.com/2010/01/career-vs-marriage-new-research-for-black-women/</a><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_AlISLP0MyZY/S2BZbqV942I/AAAAAAAAACg/YmQxSi32fjk/s1600-h/marriage+black.jpg"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 319px; height: 320px;" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_AlISLP0MyZY/S2BZbqV942I/AAAAAAAAACg/YmQxSi32fjk/s320/marriage+black.jpg" border="0" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5431439482366583650" /></a>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8207592566079020680.post-72284128177086275802010-01-21T09:53:00.001-08:002010-01-21T09:53:30.868-08:00John Edwards finally admits to being the baby daddy<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjuG_Xhs3TzlKCJ2XtjuLBjyBpqH3raHDIy6W8sUl0C_XpQ4mngLDl25uDLtOSnAiY3OiMrithwhBhBhatDI-Bgq4TEUYx1_M5VO6qc4tuqQvlDsFm-iPZyI5qAZYg6Hm-Z-ZRbAcvuLuQ/s1600-h/capt_07a30c375fb548e2b0859bbe5188feb7_edwards_daughter_ny116.jpg"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 119px; height: 200px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjuG_Xhs3TzlKCJ2XtjuLBjyBpqH3raHDIy6W8sUl0C_XpQ4mngLDl25uDLtOSnAiY3OiMrithwhBhBhatDI-Bgq4TEUYx1_M5VO6qc4tuqQvlDsFm-iPZyI5qAZYg6Hm-Z-ZRbAcvuLuQ/s200/capt_07a30c375fb548e2b0859bbe5188feb7_edwards_daughter_ny116.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5429252408924205666" /></a><br />RALEIGH, N.C. – Former Democratic presidential candidate John Edwards finally admitted Thursday he fathered a child during an affair before his second White House bid, dropping long-standing denials just ahead of a book by a former campaign aide who initially took the fall.<br /><br />Edwards released a statement admitting paternity of the girl, Frances Quinn Hunter, who was born in 2008 to videographer Rielle Hunter as the result of an affair Edwards has already confessed to.<br /><br />"It was wrong for me to ever deny she was my daughter," he said, adding he was providing financial support for the child and mother. "I am Quinn's father."<br /><br />The admission comes ahead of the Feb. 2 release of a book by former Edwards aide Andrew Young that is expected to describe how Edwards worked to hide his paternity with Young's help.<br /><a href="http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20100121/ap_on_re_us/us_edwards_daughter"><br />read full article</a><br /><br />The poor child is going to know she was denied. And his wife gets kudos for putting up with his crap. All in all this man wins, he got his cake on the side, made a beautiful baby and still gets to keep his family. Is that right?FilmGuerillahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04163209855956268559noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8207592566079020680.post-24717324086177047832010-01-14T00:23:00.000-08:002010-01-14T01:19:35.664-08:00Don't get me wrong...This is dedicated to the interracial couples that think my every waking moment is spent sabotaging their relationship with my eyes. I am a bright professional woman that has had both street and traditional education. I know why most of our men do what they do. I know why most of our women do what they do. I've studied human nature (yes it is possible to understand other people, and there are scientist who dedicate their whole lives to studying human behavior) I've studied the effects of events in this country, and I've lived it. There are thousands of youtube videos and websites, mostly by black men, who are willing to bash black women because THEY themselves are in interracial relationships. So this post is dedicated to you, and you're lovely lady.<br /><br />Date... whomever you want. Love whomever you want, but please please please don't forget where you come from, or hide why you're doing it. I've rarely met a black man in an interracial relationship that says he simply "fell in love, skin didn't matter" His dating outside his race is usually a conscious decision, and deals with dislikes towards black women. Be real, if you don't like "a black woman's attitude, how black women expect too much out of a man, or how black women gold dig" then when asked why you date outside your race, be real about it. Say it. To us, to others, to the cameras. Don't worry about hurting our feelings, because we already know why. Be real. And ladies, when you're man is alone with us, he will say how he truly feels, although he might tell you race doesn't matter, he just saw you and was smitten, theres usually something deeper behind it. I've never heard a black man says he prefers white women because he feels it in his heart. Thats simply not realistic first of all, all people have a certain type of person they are attracted to, and that's fine. Rather its the white guy that prefers Asian women, or the black woman that prefers Indian men. You are attracted to who you are attracted to. Yet when a black male is asked about his preference, he usually has something negative or hurtful to say about the women of his own race or other races. I was watching a video by a black man where he described white women as superior because of their manageable hair.... wow you get an A+ guy, I feel sorry for what ever blond sister gets stuck with you!<br /><br />I'm not looking at you... for some reason whenever I'm out and about, maybe at a club, or restaurant, I'll suddenly feel eyes on the back of my head. I'll look over and see a brother, or his date staring at me. And I wonder "why?" It seems to me interracial couples WANT the evil stares. First, I don't have time to think about you, second if you're staring at me, then I'm going to look back and wonder why, which seems to be a trap. "Whenever we go out as a couple we get stares from black women." Who? really who is sitting staring at you as a couple? If you follow these people with a camera I'd bet you wouldn't see one black woman turn her head, we've seen it already. We're over it.<br /><br />Don't bash us for dating outside our race... It seems black men are getting waaaay too angry at black women who date and marry white or latino men. Within a group just hanging out I've heard it enough times to see its an issue with them. They don't want us to date outside our race! The solution to that is put a ring on it and be a supportive, patient man who is willing to fight for his relationship, and work (in life and with understanding a woman)<br /><br />Don't stereotype me to justify you're dating choices... I get the worst generalizations from black men. Perhaps I'm at a bar, and I'm being approached, unbeknownst to the gentleman approaching I didn't pay attention to him approach, or perhaps I'm waiting for my boyfriend and don't want to be asked for my number even though I tell you I'm in a committed relationship, or showed a penis via cell phone. (all of this has happened, no lie)Perhaps I'm not interested in you, which is fine, every woman isn't going to want you. But please don't chop it up to me being a black woman. I've actually had a man say this to my face, here's the situation. I'm at a club, this time waiting for my girls. I just ordered a drink and I'm waiting. Not doing anything, simply waiting. I'm approached by an older gentleman who kindly says "Smile, why do black women always look so mean." Excuse me? What does that even mean? Are black women that watched to where I can't even simply sit and wait, not smiling, not grimacing, not killing anyone with my eyes, simply sitting, and that has to do with my race? Or I'll turn down an advance, and I'm overly nice about it, I've actually been followed out to my car because I'm too nice, which is dangerous, and when I say no, I don't want to date you or give you my number, it will be chopped up to me being black. Sorry, I don't flip over every crotch that comes my way, and that's okay, maybe you're not my type, maybe I'm already dating, maybe I'm married. Show respect and don't insult my race because I don't want to date you. <br /><br />To the ladies of other races... talk to us, most of us don't bite. We aren't irrational animals that pounce on you because you "steal our men" We know what you're more than likely going through, and we don't pity you. No matter what race of men you're dating, relationships have their problems. We know it's not all roses because you have your Nubian prince, or maybe it is and that's fine too. All we want to do is be recognized as the intelligent beautiful women that we are, and you're hating on us by thinking we think you "stole our men" really divides us as a gender. From the senator who gets his mistress pregnant, to the jailbird in the ghetto, men and women have their issues. I have my own life, my own issues, my own problems and solutions, I truly don't care who you date. More often than not, you start the conversation, asking me a silly question like "do you hate it when black men date white women?" this was an actual question from a total stranger. I'm going to give you my accurate opinion, and the history behind it, if you ask, you'll get an answer. And it will never be "I prefer black men date white women! I hook up all my black guy friends with white girls! Yayyyyyy!" Theres a reason behind why I feel the way I feel, and theres a reason behind the stigma of interracial dating, listen to it and empathize instead of saying "that's all in the past" because we all know the past shapes the future. Women need to have the girl power of the Rosie the Riveter days, this race thing is simply a distraction. <br /><br />I went to see the Body Exhibit, and if you haven't seen it I recommend it. It taught me a valuable lesson seeing the different bodies, how they move, how the muscles and bones look and work together. And I realized... we all really do look the same on the inside. The emphasise on race was created in this country by the slave masters and the killers and murderers... so why are you still falling into their ignorant trap? I don't care who you date, get over it, and stop dating and marrying women out of racial spite! Don't get me wrong, you don't know how I feel about anything until you ask me.FilmGuerillahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04163209855956268559noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8207592566079020680.post-56184540899162844642010-01-12T23:13:00.000-08:002010-01-12T23:21:33.727-08:00Support our brothers and sisters in HAITIYele.org by Wycleaf Jean provides a way for us to Donate. During this hard time for the first black democracy in the world, let us remember the need for us to unite. There is so many ways to divide people of color, but places like Haiti, and even places in America like Watts, reminds us how we must still stand together as a people. Sadly, racism is still alive in the hearts of many people in this world. However, we are also making progress in the year 2010, but we must not lose sight of how important unity is.....if we can become rich and support GUCCI and FENDI, we can also support black countries too. We as African Americans should find ways to stimulate black own buisness's and countries with our dollars we get in America. The tragedy in Haiti is a big wake up call for me. People of African descent worldwide must stand in unity ecnomoically instead of making these multi billion dollar companies rich. Let us find ways to buy from struggling indepdendent black own business's and let's keep investing in making the lives of black people better in America and outside America. Yes, we are one person, but if we remember that UNITY is the key to overcoming racism and sexism we can make some real positive change. Yes, we are more than a color, but we have to unite in order to protect our quality of life....we have to support our communities economically....<div><br /></div><div>Pray for the people in Haiti and let's start supporting the development of black communities when possible. Maybe we can try to buy at least two things from a black owned business this year ......</div><div><br /></div><div>http://yele.org is a foundation we can send money to.</div>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8207592566079020680.post-61752520965024087762010-01-12T10:29:00.000-08:002010-02-04T12:20:44.461-08:00"That is all we is"<span class="Apple-style-span" style=" color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family:'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif;font-size:13px;">*sigh.......I wonder what Dr. King would think of the statements made by Cornel West , Tavis Smiley and Micheal Dyson.....we can agree that we need effective policies and we as citizens have the right/freedom to advocate for them but to insult a leader for not being black seems like crabs in a barrel syndrome..... with many young black boys in tough communities seeing crime as the only way out, should top " African American Leaders/Scholars be petty and knock the President for not being black instead of having engaging discussions about solutions for everyday Americans? We have to be critical of all leaders, this is a democracy but I am surprised by the words of such a top historian him of all people should know the position of the President. We can change race relations and gender inequality by making these issues important to those who intentionally or unintentionally support the beliefs and actions of inequality. But at the end of the day I guess we all have to be that " ol' colored girl and ol' colored boy " to the few and those with are same color, "that is all we is....." </span><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif;font-size:100%;color:#333333;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:13px;"><br /></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif;font-size:100%;color:#333333;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:13px;">On another note, are some black male leaders having a little Penis Envy? As women of color we have also been shut out of many discussions regarding our communities....many of us have been victims of our own black men, so when will one of these top African American leaders address these issues instead of going in on the President not being black enough. All things aside, we should always question leaders....but are some people using the black community for their own personal gain? </span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif;color:#333333;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: -webkit-xxx-large;"><br /></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif;color:#333333;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: -webkit-xxx-large;"><a href="http://newsone.com/nation/michael-dyson-says-obama-runs-from-race-like-a-black-man-runs-from-a-cop/">http://newsone.com/nation/michael-dyson-says-obama-runs-from-race-like-a-black-man-runs-from-a-cop/</a></span></span></div>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8207592566079020680.post-55687420110792777102010-01-12T07:10:00.000-08:002010-01-12T07:28:12.708-08:00Are Black Women not suppose to date?<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_AlISLP0MyZY/S0yU_i7hgcI/AAAAAAAAACY/1S0N79bw-2w/s1600-h/matt-kemp-and-rihanna-1.jpg"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 309px; height: 320px;" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_AlISLP0MyZY/S0yU_i7hgcI/AAAAAAAAACY/1S0N79bw-2w/s320/matt-kemp-and-rihanna-1.jpg" border="0" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5425875470503739842" /></a><br />I am always curious about the black images of women. I sometimes see open racism and sexism geared towards many black media figures whether it is Michelle Obama or Rhianna. I noticed on other blog sites the comments that Rhianna is a whore or slut. Now, we are the public we never know what is happening behind closed doors. However, unlike other celebs that never truly date or go out with handsome men, I think Rhianna is getting a slap in the face for being a black woman taking control of her dating life. I had a conversation with a good friend who suggested I do the same thing. We talked about expanding our horizons as black women when it comes to interracial dating and online dating. So as I read some of these mainstream gossip blogs and other sites, I realized how black women are slapped for getting outside the box of being alone and helpless. I have seen many beautiful and talented white female stars have a fine ass boyfriend and switch him when needed. As women are we sluts for playing the field. Now of course there is a limit to what I mean by playing the field. But it is a sad situation to just wait for prince charming. We are just being picked rather than becoming active agents who will FIND what is TRULY good for them overall. Think about it, a man looks at you and says I like her, she fits my standards. We then say awwww I love him because he loves me. Well, what about going after what we want too. We do want a man that will chase us as well, but we also want to be active participators . Anyhow, after rethinking the Rhianna and Chris Brown incident, there is nothing she could have said that warranted getting your face mashed up! I am glad she moved on and found a fine man, hopefully they enjoy each other. As for us, I think we need to always remember that some bad social norms are perpetuating us to be alone, to be passive and to be retainers of bullshit. Black women like us will have to think outside the box and stop letting the good girl image/ I am too good image let us lose opportunities to not be alone. Most of all, we need to step outside the box to not just have fun but find long lasting love too. Who the hell cares what your mama says, your friends and anyone else, we have to find our own happiness.......As Rhianna looks back in her 40's she will probably think she kept it moving, we can't let our lives slip people either being broken hearted or only looking for love in the wrong places.....find the right places and let's GO!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8207592566079020680.post-63802488631929036172010-01-10T06:37:00.000-08:002010-02-04T12:20:19.728-08:002010 we win!<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhF-lIgLqc6eaBP78-iZ0rLVs6_VyG5oYFLG0zNmG5GDoBP8g3Gxt5rmp_frZpyflkK0a7ullZJTCvCHoighMsImqxeTACz7hEcPoFh5CK9wuIDZkVLOFBZLheOmQHS4ezpCCUbyi2Muas/s1600-h/ist2_9577442-happy-new-year-2010.jpg"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 200px; height: 137px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhF-lIgLqc6eaBP78-iZ0rLVs6_VyG5oYFLG0zNmG5GDoBP8g3Gxt5rmp_frZpyflkK0a7ullZJTCvCHoighMsImqxeTACz7hEcPoFh5CK9wuIDZkVLOFBZLheOmQHS4ezpCCUbyi2Muas/s200/ist2_9577442-happy-new-year-2010.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5425122778837849618" /></a><br />If 2009 wasn't a good year for you, and it seems like for alot of people the entire year seemed like a biblical test, then keep your head up. I believe this year will be a year of reaping what we sowed, moving on to bigger and better things, and reflection. 2010, the start of a new decade, should be a chance for you to start with a semi clean slate. Keep your eyes on the prize and work towards your goals. If you havent set out your goals clearly on a piece of paper or a journal, or on your bathroom mirror, then do it! If you see your goal you're likely to work towards it more. Keep faith in your heart, balance in your life, and peace in your home.<br /><br />Have hope for the new year ladies and keep it pushin!<br /><br />1) Make your goals visual, start a goal journal, or write them on your bathroom mirror so you see them every day. Seeing your goals will remind you of why you do what you do.<br /><br />2) Make a resolution and keep it. It's possible to keep a resolution, it's up to you to follow through with what you promised to yourself. Remember our biggest roadblock in life is the phrase "I can't" <br /><br />3) Take time for you. Work, men, kids... where is the "Me?" time. We give so much of ourselves to others, it's okay to take time for ourselves. Give yourself a spa day, or a nice relaxing bath with candles, or even an hour to read a chapter in a book can make all the difference.FilmGuerillahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04163209855956268559noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8207592566079020680.post-62728223576189793112010-01-10T06:07:00.000-08:002010-02-04T12:20:44.461-08:00Black Men and Black Women<object width="425" height="344"><param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/-IKG0X0ucoY&hl=en_US&fs=1&"></param><param name="allowFullScreen" value="true"></param><param name="allowscriptaccess" value="always"></param><embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/-IKG0X0ucoY&hl=en_US&fs=1&" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" allowscriptaccess="always" allowfullscreen="true" width="425" height="344"></embed></object><br /><br />This guy is pretty interesting. He touches on alot of issues black women try to express when talking about interracial dating.FilmGuerillahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04163209855956268559noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8207592566079020680.post-90714182005298271582010-01-09T12:51:00.000-08:002010-01-09T12:59:35.094-08:00Do we define "Black Love" as just love between two black people?Do we think this months Essence went to far with placing Reggie Bush on a cover " Black Love"....now apparently Essence is getting some bad comments with this one...what do you think? are we reading to much into this situation ? or should a magazine directed at black women be more sensitive ? Also, is black love more than just love with another black person?<div><br /></div><div>Check out the link below.</div><div><a href="http://ow.ly/16iPft">http://ow.ly/16iPft</a></div>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8207592566079020680.post-59303678523035397052010-01-07T10:44:00.000-08:002010-02-04T12:20:59.822-08:00Let the little stuff slide off....I was listening to the radio and heard a powerful statement. A man said " African Americans need to watch our idle time, and we need to be more productive". He further stated that " We need to make sure our conversations relevant and useful". I think of a saying my mother always tells me " Do not waste time". Now obviously we need to relax in life and we must find ways to renergize. However, it is time in 2010 for all of us to dream big! Aa women of color we are more than just job lablels, mothers, and wives.....we have souls too. We are placed on this planet to be true to our souls and to create....the question I ask myself is " what am I creating" and " how can I express my soul in a productive way". In American society, it is very easy to become a label in this huge rat race. Yet, whether we are wives, successful buisness women or great mothers we also need to make sure we are truly focused on expanding our creative space within and outside these relationships. I can only imagine the reason why many financial successful people are unhappy is because they have lost this creative space. I know many friends who are blessed in the entertainment and fine art field who use these gifts everyday. Regular folks like you and me also need to challenge ourselves to make our lives richer.......we can get all we want but we must also add the flavor to it as well...and in order to add this flavor to our lives we have to let the little stuff slide. Let go of the day to day bullshit . Let go of the day to day limiting experiences in life and with other people. In the words of Lauryn Hill get out the boxes. The people who use their lives completely never allowed themselves to be in a box. Life is not a popularity contest on who likes us or loves us. How dare we spend any second or any of our breath on what does not matter. How dare we fill our thoughts on anything that is not our food for the soul.Life is about how much we love life and the people around us... It is also about us finding a space with our creator, our God and challenging God to open up new directions and paths for us...we want to grow as much as possible. The small distractions of worrying about the little things, little ideas and other people's limitations can truly stop our quality of life. We can all live to be one hundred but the quality of life is what counts, at the end of the day we are given so much, the question for 2010 is how much will we focus and let our lives grow beyond our own expectations.... This is what I ask myself at this point in my life...Like a pot, we have to give our dreams, sun, soil and water, we also cannot let anyone pluck these dreams away from us.... hold on, and I am expecting great things for myself and all of us this year :-)...and may we share these new beginnings with our loved ones in our lives...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8207592566079020680.post-35801517131589122462010-01-06T14:06:00.000-08:002010-01-06T14:07:40.967-08:00Miseducation sucks<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 13px; white-space: pre; "> "Men are taught to apologize for their weaknesses, women for their strengths." - Lois Wyse</span>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8207592566079020680.post-21504186976224930682010-01-05T14:58:00.000-08:002010-01-05T14:58:02.327-08:00From Don Imus to Michelle Obama, the 2000s Will Go Down as a Decade to Remember for Black Women<a href="http://www.thedefendersonline.com/2010/01/05/from-don-imus-to-michelle-obama-the-2000s-will-go-down-as-a-decade-to-remember-for-black-women/">From Don Imus to Michelle Obama, the 2000s Will Go Down as a Decade to Remember for Black Women</a>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8207592566079020680.post-89282269094603036642010-01-04T08:30:00.000-08:002010-01-04T08:53:00.843-08:00Are African Americans getting any real benefits of the civil rights movement?As a California native, I have noticed something scary. My parents were immigrants and they had to work hard to get citizenship in America. However, I wonder that since they were African descent immigrants did they not get any additional help and opportunities in comparison to other immigrants. My main point is that the civil rights movement was about social equality for all people. Yet, the African Americans that were the main fighters for this social equality to me are not benfiting as much from these social, economic and political gains? Individuals that immigrant from countries of African Descent do not get the same assistance.At the end of the day, we are all people of the human race, I am not being divisive about the general struggle for freedom and human rights, however, I do think that many social programs and opporunities are spefically geared towards immigrants of non african descent and other U.S. minorities. I do not have a problems with offering the same programs to all people in order to be fair and just, but I do not like that after 400 hundred years, people of African descent still get the short hand of the stick when it comes to recruitment and obtaining resources for advancements on all levels of society. This is why I am a strong believer in still supporting black networks, we still need each other's support. The influx of latinos had added wonderful diversity, I love the diverse cultures, however, we must also still stay critical in this new "non race" society.so that those of African descent do not become silently left behind. Many will want us to believe that structural racism is not here anymore, this is a very dangferous belief. For example, schools systems cater to non english speakers, however, you can speak english and still be functionally not literate ......we need to make sure African American children are not left behind as well. This is just one example how minorities can be selected from a group of other minorities to have more " directed" benefits than others. I hope in a couple decades, the gap between blacks and Latinos will not be similar to those than whites. I can also use the University of California schools as another example where other minorities dominate and blacks are left our the picture, these other minorities are indeed benefiting from the civil rights movement, policies and opportunities but we must make sure that all blacks have the same opporunities when it comes to obtaining the same helpful resources...keep our eyes open. Most of all, I am no writing this blog as a way to say blacks need a handout and we are waiting to get things without working for it. I just see that we must stay vigilant about making sure that we are also eating the fruits that African Americans died for years ago as well....As black history month approaches, it becomes vital that whites and non black minorities truly respect the sacrifices that many African Americans have made for civil rights, human rights and social progress.....Black History month in America should really be called American Civil Rights month and African Americans played a huge role in that fight in which many others are benefiting from today in America...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8207592566079020680.post-19311918094449174862009-12-31T08:49:00.000-08:002009-12-31T08:54:42.613-08:00Sometimes its not all black n white Lou Jing<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEilG-gQm53cr0RJtewHP8dpjRFN-H8iQJ6GPt6_MBC7MOAIHBV_YM5r4FugRgLiQBu4obUY2_p-dkDsdF8A3zDh5fmy_WLJeTMP4nbs-Lvpk9jIvXMpo_IE-Np0sxxn_O2Y8H8wk3eV-y4/s1600-h/Lou.jpg"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 134px; height: 200px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEilG-gQm53cr0RJtewHP8dpjRFN-H8iQJ6GPt6_MBC7MOAIHBV_YM5r4FugRgLiQBu4obUY2_p-dkDsdF8A3zDh5fmy_WLJeTMP4nbs-Lvpk9jIvXMpo_IE-Np0sxxn_O2Y8H8wk3eV-y4/s200/Lou.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5421443525496392626" /></a><br /><br /><br />This beautiful half Chinese half Black sister is being hated, hackled, and harassed by her Chinese people. If she was half white she could blend in and all would be well. I'm happy my skin is dark, I'm happy I stick out, because I shift through the real people, and the people with half brains that descriminate because of skin color. Its kind of a forced "be real" situation. If you're racist, you'll show it and I'd rather know who is and who isn't. <br />I just wish her father was there to support her emotionally. <br /><br /><object width="560" height="340"><param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/QUG6KSy9rPI&hl=en_US&fs=1&"></param><param name="allowFullScreen" value="true"></param><param name="allowscriptaccess" value="always"></param><embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/QUG6KSy9rPI&hl=en_US&fs=1&" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" allowscriptaccess="always" allowfullscreen="true" width="560" height="340"></embed></object>FilmGuerillahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04163209855956268559noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8207592566079020680.post-65298218099124728452009-12-28T17:25:00.000-08:002009-12-28T17:45:17.288-08:00When will we point of the self hate in black men?I remember speaking to one of my coworkers at a past Job. It was such a true and funny. conversation. She was in her late 50's a cultural aware woman who happened to also be Jewish. She described to me how in the past black women were not " having all that" ...in other words, we showed our disdain for any educated black man that wanted to marry outside of his race for status and self hate instead of love....? Deep down are many of our black man still wanting to move in to the masta's house and with his woman instead of using new freedoms to build a new house? Seriously, at times I wonder if many black men are still looking to white America as their fathers rather than truly defining their own lives for themselves? IN the pursuit of money, we need to all become owners.In the case of Tiger Woods, why can't we have more black men and women being the people who cut checks for million dollar athletes, and once again we should have more people than just Tyler Perry and Oprah able to make hollywood decisions.....yet, no matter how we dress it up, many of our men and even some of our women are still " shucklin and jiving"......but our men is where we lose the much needed leadership for our communities, we as black women have been doing this strong black woman thing for too long, it is time for us to hold black men accountable and stop blaming it all on us.....if you date outside of your race for love, that is okay, but to date outside of your race because you hate how your mother looks is disgusting, it should be the exceptions but not the rule to date everyone that does not look like you! ,how can you hate yourself?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8207592566079020680.post-52007752355415780062009-12-28T11:53:00.000-08:002009-12-28T11:54:17.399-08:00So what do we do ladies?<object width="425" height="344"><param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/bJGMAhWpDF8&hl=en_US&fs=1&"></param><param name="allowFullScreen" value="true"></param><param name="allowscriptaccess" value="always"></param><embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/bJGMAhWpDF8&hl=en_US&fs=1&" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" allowscriptaccess="always" allowfullscreen="true" width="425" height="344"></embed></object>FilmGuerillahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04163209855956268559noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8207592566079020680.post-68718855400839362932009-12-28T11:52:00.000-08:002009-12-28T11:53:29.642-08:00Liars, and Tigers, and Hoes! OH MY!<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjwQW6xPMSvCrGodSUfhEszVn88_AT2ubPAmVccYDJyijCDpRhhevT4O03nhfxu28R7IEgGzyOLkYqcKwtQP8ML3wlZvn6sVB-zLb7ZbgRigoUJkIL2BDkMTJLIEK7zwb-v_-UR5vDpN0k/s1600-h/images.jpg"><img style="margin: 0pt 10px 10px 0pt; float: left; cursor: pointer; width: 129px; height: 101px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjwQW6xPMSvCrGodSUfhEszVn88_AT2ubPAmVccYDJyijCDpRhhevT4O03nhfxu28R7IEgGzyOLkYqcKwtQP8ML3wlZvn6sVB-zLb7ZbgRigoUJkIL2BDkMTJLIEK7zwb-v_-UR5vDpN0k/s200/images.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5420377542893854146" border="0" /></a><br />So I've waited for a while to write about this one on purpose. I wanted to see how it will play out, I remember watching the morning news for a few days and thinking, my god he had a car accident leave the man alone! But it has clearly turned out to be a deeper and darker issue with our beloved blasian golfer. His squeaky clean persona and papa pleasing career has landed him in the top 10 black men in my book (he's black even if he won't admit it) and I feel like there are alot of issues that have led up to his personal unraveling.<br /><br />Here are 5 good points that both defend Tiger and could make him hang his head in shame<br /><br />1) The politics behind being a multi millionaire black male in sports. Basketball players and Football players have been proof is this issue for decades. There is a certain politic when it comes to black men and sports. I'm a conspiracy theorist to the max and when I see the black men running around after a ball headed by their white coach, well I can only refer to one point in history where that was okay, but alot of people might think I'm digging too deep on that one... fine! But breaking barriers in a sport like golf comes with great consequences for a black man. First off he must live up to the image of his peers, this means blending in as much as possible, even if it means at times not acknowledging either of the two races that make you you. His choice of marrying and raising a family will be scrutinized not matter what, his black wife would be scrutinized, his asian wife would be scrutinized, and his white wife as well. But as always when a black man is "successful" the safest choice for a mate is a white woman, afterall that will mean she's not a gold digger right? (hmmm how much is Elin standing to gain from this marriage?) When will our men realize it doesnt matter what race of woman you marry, most of them will simply see dollar signs. Now lets say she really loved the guy, i don't know them personally so, lets say this was truly her prince charming, her white counter parts are taking pride in pointing their fingers at the woman that tried to save the animalistic man that can't keep it in his pants. Lets face it, thats what black men are best known for anyway? A man of his stature, and with his sexual issues simply needs to stay single... why do you think Oprah will never get married? She knows the deal.<br /><br />2) Money money money. This athlete stands to lose alot based simply on his image. So why oh why didnt he think about that when he was bending over a random waitress? Why can't these men really think? I mean really? There has to be a certain point in a mans life when the lightbulb comes on right? Wrong, and he has proven that. Now he's on a race to save his fortune from his wife, and save his endorsements who want a clean, family man on their roster. And what do these "mistresses" get? A chance to go down in the Hoe hall of fame.<br /><br />3) Children don't make your image. Sometimes in the entertainment and sports industry a sick thing happens, the public figure needs to have a kid to keep their image. It's not really anything new, and isnt an unknown issue. Rather its through adoption to keep up with the Pitts, or having a kid within a PR marriage, the public figures of this country need to hold themselves accountable for bringing children into truly screwed up situations. If he really has a sex addition he should be ashamed of himself for having children, looking at the timeline it was possible he was cheating on his wife during her pregnancy, which to me is the ultimate disrespect a man can show towards his wife.<br /><br />4) The race war. Tiger has gotten some flack from the beginning because of the color of his skin, its America, it's normal, people are screwed in the head. So would this be as big an issue if his wife were black? Hearing about the other golfers turning their backs on him, when they probably have their little candy girl on the side as well doesnt sit right with me. Calling him a fake, and the man that introduced the two saying he knew Tiger was fake, then why would you hook him up?! If you know someone is sticking his d#@& in every hole on the golf course, then don't introduce him to your gal pals. We are in the age of Obama and you can't have too many good black male images in the media, we gotta mix it up a little, thanks Tiger for reminding us our men need alot of work! (thats sarcasm)<br /><br />5) Self control. Sex addition is a crock. I'm sorry, I know there are people out there rocking back and forth saying oh my god I need to do it now with anyone! But give me a break, there are way too many classified, medicated addictions and vices that simply center around a lack of self control. His father seemed like a loving and caring man that would be disappointed to have a son that simply didn't think. I dont buy any kind of addiction story.FilmGuerillahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04163209855956268559noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8207592566079020680.post-64937293478087984762009-12-21T20:45:00.000-08:002009-12-28T11:57:26.353-08:00Do African American women have to give up more to be with someone?<div><br /></div><div>Okay, we already know some of the grime statistics of finding a African American male partner. If we also try to date outside our race, we also have to sometimes face racism there as well. I do think that dating outside our background is important because we are all people regardless of color. However, the bigger issue of value and racism comes to mind when I think of how much I may have to give up to be with someone. I am limited in my choices. Yes, I can overcome these limitations and I do believe with faith( and acts of courage) I can find my true partner. Nonetheless, if I am a fish and dating is my sea..... how do I create a boundary between being to eager to swim in okay waters when I can have some better waters....does this makes sense? A stereotype that comes to my mind is the angry " ghetto" screaming black woman. This stereotype is the representation of how historically and even presently we are all put into a box of inequality as women of color. We are put into a box of racism and sexism all at the same the time. I also think African American communities have a huge division when it comes to class. Many of us in higher positions either want to forget racism exists or we want to justify why many blacks have bad life outcomes. Alright, so with all this said, we have to be careful to not settle for just anything. Sometimes our expectations are very low. The media or mainstream people will want us to believe that " educated" black women have too high of standards and this is why we are single. I am sorry, the reality is we are mules to our black men and sometimes cartoons to non-black men. Many of our black men have sold us out. In California I rarely will see a black man push a stroller for a black woman. A friend of mine told me how in the mid Atlantic is so easy to see a black man with a black baby? The real solution is not for us to be angry, that will never ever help, but we must also remain hopeful. I heard another woman say that "all men cheat", now the media may show every famous black man sticking his love everywhere but that is not necessarily true for ALL black men. We must still expect a man to not cheat, we must still expect a man to support us with his heart, we must expect him to not be perfect, but we can expect him to be a soldier for us and to protect us ....because that is what we do deserve like every other woman. We also have to guard our hearts, what a burden? we are exploited, and this is the reality, a man who knows the social conditions of our situation will have to be a man of his word because we have to guard our bodies and souls. There is a reason we have high HIV rates, single mothers and forms of abuse -------------> racism and sexism. We must speak truths to each other as women as well and not apply the racist stereotypes of causation to our own sisters! If we look at popular culture, we would think being the trash bags to men is normal and it is not. We also have to remember that education does not mean everything, a college educated man can dump you and leave you. In the end, we have to keep our hearts true to our ancestors and ourselves........we are all royalty. We deserve the realist love, a love that will make sure that we do not cry too long, a love that will always want to heal us, a love that will never want to break us, even if we may fight...... there is nothing perfect people, but as black woman I do think we have to straddle the line between loving with all our our hearts like we have done since the beginning of time....and finding the freedom to love, never being scared to fly to where we belong and also to stay where we do belong...</div>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com